tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2205067292406874239.post5709196901076607529..comments2012-06-15T22:23:56.850-06:00Comments on Point of a Million Connections: Gendered DoughnutsEdenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07292652729664250649noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2205067292406874239.post-3741997683832764162011-04-06T23:31:31.812-06:002011-04-06T23:31:31.812-06:00I think you already do what you need to do to prep...I think you already do what you need to do to prepare him. (Although nobody is ever truly prepared for the cruelty of socialization.) You encourage his individuality, inspire his confidence and love him. Knowing you support him in choosing a pink do(ugh)nut, will allow him to deal with it in the larger world. There is already some movement among youth towards degenderization. I think of PinkTracynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2205067292406874239.post-76795817727623916662011-03-24T11:08:30.480-06:002011-03-24T11:08:30.480-06:00Laura: I might not have seen the doughnut as gende...Laura: I might not have seen the doughnut as gendered if I hadn't been with relatives who say things to Vincent like, "That's a girl bike because it's pink and purple. You wouldn't want a bike like that." Also assuming a hyper-masculine atmosphere given we were at a hockey game. I was totally fearing someone would comment on the doughnut.<br /><br />I was a bit surprisedEdenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07292652729664250649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2205067292406874239.post-19809978731065435912011-03-24T10:57:46.763-06:002011-03-24T10:57:46.763-06:00Funnily enough, I didn't look at this doughnut...Funnily enough, I didn't look at this doughnut and think "girly!" and didn't suppose it could be interpreted as such until I got to the end of your post. (I just wondered what kind of reddish fruit was involved.) Which shows either that a) I am blissfully naive, b) I grew up in the San Francisco area, or c) I have never raised children in a gendered and gendering world.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13039996630893533078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2205067292406874239.post-38866892397724394122011-03-24T09:15:53.650-06:002011-03-24T09:15:53.650-06:00we have convos all the time about "in our cul...we have convos all the time about "in our culture, people think that .... XYZ. but our family thinks... ABC" The kids are so used to it that here travelling in Portugal they're all "in some cultures it's ok to write graffiti but in our family we don't". ;-)<br /><br />it's ok for kids to know that "some ppl think this" as long as it's paired CornishScottshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152618650899404123noreply@blogger.com